9/29 - Change in Plans

Sorry it’s been so long since the last update. We’ve had a lot going on lately. Let’s see…where to begin.

Well, last week we got an email from our attorney telling us that some of Kristine’s relatives (an Aunt and Uncle) have come forward and would like to take her to live with them. For international adoptions, I think a notice is published in the paper or something so that family can be notified of adoption proceedings. Kristine’s relatives don’t want to adopt her but instead want to be her guardians. We are not overly concerned that this will stop the process, but it will definitely delay it a couple of weeks. We already know that Kristine doesn’t want to live with these relatives. They have not seen her since she was 3-years old and have not been a part of her life. Kristine has told the children’s home director and the social worker that she already thinks of us as her family.

We have been told that it is unlikely that the court will side with the relatives but you never know. Today, there was a meeting among Kristine, her relatives, the children’s home director and social worker. Kristine once again told them she doesn’t want to go with the relatives. Now it’s up to the children’s home to pass that information to the Orphan Court so that they can rule on it. We are currently awaiting the ruling of the Orphan Court. If the ruling is in our favor (which hopefully it will be), then the Ministry of Adoption will officially “match” us with Kristine and we can move forward and be assigned court dates.

Our original court dates of Oct. 9th and 23rd were assigned to us prematurely, before the international clearance for adoption had been completed. We expect our new court dates to be around the end of October. However, we are waiting until we know for sure before we make our new travel arrangements. The frustrating part of this is that we’ll lose money on the flights and hotel we already booked. We’re trying not to dwell on it though and are just dealing with things as they come up.

Kristine is going through a rough time right now so please keep her and all of us in your prayers. We found out today that she will be moved to another children’s home next week to stay until we get there. I don’t want to get into the details here but I’ll just say the situation at her children’s home became unsafe for her. Because of this, it may be possible that the court will allow us to bring her home to stay with us between court sessions. Another family we know of was able to do this because their child had special circumstances as well. It may turn out to be a good thing because if this happens, we’d have her home for Thanksgiving and Christmas! We won’t know until we’re there for court whether or not they’ll allow us to bring her back. We’ll just have to see how it plays out.

We talked to Kristine a couple of days ago and and asked her if she was okay. It broke our hearts when she said “no”. We could tell she wanted to say more but she hesitated because there were people around listening to her conversation. All we can do is remind her how much we love her and miss her. She always replies, “me too.” It has to be so hard being the child and having all of these adults meeting to discuss your fate. I don’t know how much they tell her about what’s going on. We just want her to know we’re doing everything we can to bring her home.

We found out that when we’re in Latvia for Kristine’s court that we won’t be able to have Olegs stay with us after all. Now that Kristine is staying in a different place and both kids have to go to school each day, the orphan court and director want us to focus on Kristine right now. We can still spend time with Olegs after school each day but he just can’t stay with us. We still don’t know whether it will be possible for Olegs to be cleared for adoption, so we have to be careful not to make it seem like we’re adopting him right now. He knows we want to adopt him but his situation is more complicated. When we get there, we want to make sure he understands exactly what is going on. When we’re in Latvia, we hope to find out more details about the steps they’ve taken so far in getting him cleared for adoption.

It’s been a little bit of an emotional roller coaster lately. We have no doubt that when everything is said and done we’ll be parents. It’s just hard being so far away and depending on others to do their part to make things happen. It just reminds us to rely on our faith. We have to believe that God wouldn’t bring us this far to let us down now.

9/18 - The Kids Know We're Coming!

We called and talked to Kristine yesterday. Once again Olegs wasn’t available (or at least that’s what Kristine said anyway). Whenever we want to talk to Olegs it seems like she always puts her friend Agnese on the phone instead and reminds us how Agnese needs a family too. We always love talking to Agnese and we tell Kristine that we’re praying for Agnese to find a family. We’re really hoping that someone will be able to host Agnese and her younger sister at Christmas. Maybe it might lead to her adoption. Who knows? I know it will be hard for Kristine to leave her friends when she comes to live with us. We’ll just have to do our best to help her keep in touch by writing and calling.

We told Kristine that we would be coming to Riga for our court date on October 9th and she said she already knew, of course. It’s funny how news travels so fast. We got to talk to Olegs today since we didn’t get him yesterday. He had also heard about us coming. This time when we called, we only asked to speak with him. It was funny…when we called, our friend Ilga just happened to answer the phone at the children’s home. She was there meeting with the children’s home director (also named Ilga). The director got busy so Ilga answered her phone for her. Before I knew it was Ilga, I said my usual “Labdien, Olegs Ludzu” and she said “Who is this?” It freaked us out at first because we didn’t expect the person on the other end to speak English. Then she told us it was her and we had a good chat. We haven’t spoken to her since she went back to Latvia, only through emails.

The timing was perfect in talking to Ilga because she had a couple of questions for us about the type of flat we will need for our stay there. She’s helping us locate a place to stay while we’re there. We’ll have both children staying with us and a court social worker will be making visits so it needs to be an acceptable place to the court.

We got a decent deal on plane tickets last week. The airfare was just under $2,000 for both of us which is good believe it or not. Ilga is having the court check out a place she’s picked out for us to stay so that should be confirmed soon too. Things are falling into place. We still have many things to get worked out before we travel though…very important things like how do I make sure my hair dryer and curling iron will work in Latvia? LOL! I’ll probably end up buying new ones in Latvia so they’ll be compatible. That’s just one of the million items on my list! Then there are more important things like figuring out who we should take gifts to. Of course, we feel we should give something to the children’s home director and her staff. Plus, we want to bring some games and candy for the rest of the children there too. We’ve gotten some advice from other adoptive parents based on what they gave as gifts so we’ll be working on our gift list.

Time seems like it’s moving like a freight train these days. It’s starting to hit us that we’re leaving two weeks from Friday. YIKES!!

9/15 - We Got Our First Court Dates!!!

We got an email from our attorney late yesterday afternoon telling us that we have been assigned court dates in Latvia on 10/9 and 10/23. That means we’re ready to travel to Latvia!!!! YIKES!!! During this first visit to Latvia we will be required to live in an apartment in Riga and have Kristine stay with us there for two weeks. At the first court date on 10/9 we will be granted temporary custody of Kristine. A social worker will then visit us at our apartment approximately three times to observe our “bonding.” Obviously, we’ve already bonded since she stayed with us at our home so this is just a formality. Since we are only adopting Kristine now, she is the only child we are required to have stay with us. However, we requested and got permission for Olegs to stay with us too so we can spend more time with him and he can be a part of the whole process.

On the second court date on 10/23 I think the social worker will give her recommendations to the court and they will hopefully approve us to move forward. Not sure if we’ll find out what our next court date will be at that point or if we’ll have to wait to find out. It’s so hard to believe this is finally happening. We’ve spent all this time waiting that it just doesn’t seem real that we’re gonna be traveling soon.

One thing we’re a little nervous about is that we have to take both children to school every morning and they both go to different schools. The last thing we need is to get lost and get them to school late or something. UUGGGHHH! I think Rob and I have decided the easiest thing to do will be to get the children back to the children’s home each morning so they can go to school with their friends. Then we can pick them up there in the afternoon. Our friend Ilga is looking for a flat (apartment) for us to stay in near the children’s home. We’re trying to avoid renting a car so hopefully things will work out so we can use the public transportation to go back and forth. Hopefully, we can figure out the schedules and routes so we don't get on a bus that takes us in the wrong direction. It’s all so intimidating now but I know things will fall into place when we get there.

So we'll be leaving for Latvia on 10/6 and returning on 10/24. We can’t wait to tell the kids the news when we call them this weekend. They may even already know since word gets around fast. We’re just so excited to be able to tell them that we have a definite date that we’ll be coming to see them. YIPPEE!!

9/11 - All is Fine with Olegs

Rob and I had decided we would try calling Olegs again today and see if we could get him on the phone. We had to know if he was mad at us. LOL! Plus we just wanted to hear his voice and tell him how much we love him and miss him. We tried calling around 10am which would be 5pm in Latvia. We called and got through to someone in the office who yelled for Olegs to get on the phone. It’s so funny…when they yell for the kids to come to the phone they yell at the top of their lungs in this big powerful BOOMING voice. I’d get my behind to the phone too, and pronto, if they yelled for me like that!! LOL!

Olegs got on the phone and said “yes?”. We told him it was Robert and Kathleen and he said “aaahhh, yes”. He obviously wasn’t mad and I was so relieved. We told him how much we love him and miss him and he said “me too.” Those two little words just melted our hearts. Rob got to tell me “I told you so.” Looks like he was right and that Olegs was just caught up in his game and didn’t want to come to the phone at that moment. We asked Olegs what he was doing and he said “nothing.” Come to think of it, I remember giving that same answer ("nothing") to my mom when she asked me what I did at school. Must be a kid thing. He said he likes school. We told him we’ll be coming to Riga to see him soon and he said he’s happy.

We heard Kristine approaching in the background so we told Olegs we’d call next Sunday and he handed the phone to Kristine. She was wondering why we were calling again and asked what we were doing. We told her that we were both at work (Rob and I were conferenced together so we could call together). We said that we called because we didn’t get Olegs yesterday but now we’re extra happy we got to talk to her too. She said she’s happy too which was sweet. It was a great call and it felt so good to talk to both of them again.

9/10 - Weekly Chat with the Kids

Today we called the kids at our usual time of 9am and the phone rang with no answer at the children’s home. It’s a little frustrating because we told the kids we would be calling at that time but for whatever reason no one answered. We have to remember that they are 11-years old and probably don’t understand how big a deal it is for us to call from the U.S. to Latvia. We were happy when we called back about 45 mins. later and got Kristine on the phone. We had the usual conversation about the weather (it wasn’t raining this time). Once again, Kristine said she doesn’t like school. We asked her what she was doing today and she just said “nothing.” So we said, “you just sit and do nothing all day?” She laughed and said, “NOOOOO”. She finally admitted to playing a little bit. There was too much giggling and commotion going on in the background for them to be doing nothing. Her friend Agnese was with her again. I guess the highlight of the call for Kristine was when Maverick (our cat) got on the phone and said "Sveiki" ("hello" in Latvian) to her. Okay, I'll confess that Maverick got a little squeeze from Robert before he let out his meow greeting (no, he didn't squeeze him hard, so don't write us angry letters). LOL! Kristine thought it was hilarious. She laughed and laughed and Rob and I did too!!

We asked Kristine where Olegs was and she said he was playing football. We told her to go get him and could hear her screaming for him as she went down the hallway. The girl has got healthy lungs for sure. LOL! She came back a few seconds later and said Olegs couldn’t come to the phone. We talked to Kristine a little more and she asked us if we wanted to talk to Agnese. So we talked to Agnese for a few minutes and asked her a few things. She answered “yes” to everything so we don’t know if she understood what we were saying or not. We can’t wait to meet her. She sounds like such a good kid too.

Before we signed off, we asked Kristine to go try to get Olegs again. She again went screaming for him down the hallway and came back and said he didn’t want to talk to us. Talk about a blow to the heart. Our boy doesn’t want to talk to us? Obviously, we can’t grill Kristine with questions so we just told her to tell him we love him and miss him and we’ll call him later. She said “okay” and we signed off. It’s hard not to let your mind race with all the possible reasons he might not want to talk to us…Was he mad for some reason? Was he upset that we have to adopt Kristine first and him later? Is he not getting the letters we've sent him but watching Kristine get her letters? My mind was racing because we didn’t get to talk to Olegs last week either because he was away on an outing. Rob reminded me that Olegs was with “the fellas” playing football today and he probably didn’t want to break away if they were having a good game. He probably didn’t want to ruin his cool image. One thing is certain, we’ll be calling again tomorrow and every day after that until we get him on the phone!

9/9 - Garage Sale Recap

We survived yet another exhausting garage sale today. Once again, it will take me the rest of the weekend to recover since every muscle in my body aches like you would not believe. It’s pathetic, I know. This time we had a lot of competition so we didn’t make as much money as we did in our past sales. There were a couple of big neighborhood sales in our area so we didn’t have as much traffic at ours. That means we had a lot of stuff leftover so we had to drag it back into the garage to store for the next sale. Poor Robert…each time we have a sale he keeps hoping that we’ll sell everything so he can have his garage back. We’ll just wait a few weeks and do it all over again and park the car in the driveway in the meantime. :-)

It turned out to be a gorgeous day and we made about $250.00….not as much as before but we're definitely thankful. Every little bit helps. We’ll probably try to squeeze in one more sale before Christmas since we have so much stuff left. I’m just glad this one is OVER!

9/3 - Our Weekly Phone Visit

Rob and I called and talked to Kristine this morning but Olegs wasn’t available today. Many times on the weekends, the kids go on excursions so he was away this weekend. We were a little disappointed that we didn’t get to talk to Olegs but we still had a good visit with Kristine. She now knows we want to adopt her so she’s excited about becoming a part of our family. We asked her how she liked school since Friday was their first day of school. She said she didn’t like it at all…typical kid. She said it was raining today so we joked about it raining the last time we talked to her and Olegs. We asked her if it rained everyday in Latvia and she laughed as she said "noooooo".

Kristine asked what we were doing today and we told her that after church we were going to take Winston over to our friend’s house for a cookout and so Winston could swim in their pool. She thought that was funny that Winston was allowed to go in a pool that people swim in. We reminisced and laughed about the days when she and Olegs were here and they just had to go to the pool every single day....they'd constantly ask, "swim? swim? swim?"

We asked her if she was playing with her friends today and she mentioned that her friend, Agnese, was also away this weekend so she was bored. Kristine talked this time about how she wished Agnese could also find a family. I’m not sure if she’s even available for adoption, but we told Kristine that we would pray that Agnese will find a family too. Agnese is a beautiful girl (We got to see a picture of her last week) a little bit older than Kristine (13, I think) and we also found out that she has a younger sister (9-10 years old) also named Kristine. Rob and I wish we could adopt all of them, but obviously we can’t. We can sure help spread the word about them though. In the next month or so, I believe Jennifer Peters will be looking to sign up host families for the Christmas hosting so please spread the word. Even if a host family isn’t interested in adopting, they can still make a difference in a kid’s life just by showing them love for the few weeks that they are here. If you or someone you know is interested in hosting at Christmas, you can contact Jennifer Peters directly at 404-384-7586 or click here to send her an email.

9/2 - We Got an Email From the Kids!

I just happened to check my work email from home this morning and scanned through my “junk” email box just to see if anything important got sent there accidentally. I got so excited when I saw an email with the subject line, “Hello from Kristine and Olegs.” Rob was at work so I called him to let him know we got an email from the kids!!! Of course, he wanted to know what they had to say so I attempted to “unjunk” the email and read it. My excitement quickly turned into desperation when I kept getting an error message that said “page not available.” Needless to say, I clicked on it again and again, not believing this was happening. I kept getting the same error message over and over!! It was all I could do to keep from banging the computer against the wall. ARRRGGGHHH!! We had an email from our kids in Latvia and I couldn’t open it!!!! Talk about feeling helpless!!!

Well, it dawned on me that it was probably our protective firewall at work that was preventing me from “unjunking” my junk emails from my home computer. The only way we could access that email would be for me to either wait until I go back to work on Tuesday or get in the car immediately and drive downtown to my office so I can check my email from work. There was NO way I was gonna wait 2 more days to find out what their email said. So what if it takes a day trip to get there and back [sarcasm noted here]. In my mind there was no choice. Rob knew I wouldn’t be able to stand it otherwise…plus, he also wanted to know what the kids had to say. This probably sounds so silly, but those of you who are adopting know what I’m talking about. Any communication we get from our kids is more precious than anything.

Since Grandmother loves car rides, I loaded her up and took her with me on the drive to work. It made me feel better about making this silly trip to check an email. It gave us a chance to spend some quality time together so that made it okay. Winston came along for the ride too.

As you can imagine, it was such a relief to get to work and FINALLY open that email. Olegs and Kristine had sent it to us Friday after school so it had been sitting in my junk email box since Friday morning our time. As soon as I opened it, I immediately forwarded it to Rob at the shop so we could read it at the same time. An added bonus was that the kids wrote to us in English. Someone obviously helped them and we were so relieved that we didn’t have to try to decipher an email written in Latvian. They wrote just a few short sentences but the highlights were the parts where they told us they want to come to America and that they miss us and love us very much (talk about melting your heart!). They told us that yesterday was their first day of school and that they liked it because they got to see their friends. They thanked us for calling them and said they enjoy our phone visits. They are also excited that we are coming to Latvia soon.

Talk about making our day!! We’ve reread the email over and over. We just can’t help it. We’ll be calling Olegs and Kristine tomorrow morning for our weekly chat and can’t wait to hear their voices!!

8/30 - The Kids Now Know We Want to Adopt Them

These days we spend a lot of time waiting for emails from our attorney, the chaperones in Latvia or anyone else who has new information about our adoption case or general information about how our kids are doing. We were excited when we received a letter this week from the Ministry for Children and Public Affairs in Latvia. Right after the children went home, we sent a letter to the Ministry to let them know we would like to adopt Olegs and Kristine. In their reply, they let us know that Kristine had previously been interviewed in March by someone from the Orphan Court about her feelings concerning international adoption. At that time, she had said she didn’t want to be adopted by a family in a foreign country. She was probably scared of the unknown. The letter then went on to say that they received additional information last week from Kristine’s children’s home that she does now wish to be adopted internationally!! She had changed her mind since she and Olegs came to visit us. YIPPEE!! We were so happy to hear that. We always felt she did want to be adopted but it’s good to hear it from an official source.

The Ministry’s letter also addressed Olegs’ situation and confirmed that he is not currently available for adoption. This is nothing we didn’t already know as we are currently going through the steps to get him cleared. The letter went on to say that they would be forwarding our request to the Orphan Court so they can review both cases. Our attorney says our dossier translation will be complete next week so she will then give our paperwork to the Ministry or Orphan Court (not sure which one of them is supposed to get it).

Today we finally got confirmation that we’re allowed to talk openly to the kids about adoption now. We are so happy that we don’t have to avoid the “A” word anymore. Rob and I decided, however, that we won’t talk about it unless the kids bring it up. We don’t want Kristine to be overly excited in front of Olegs. It may be hard for him knowing that we are adopting Kristine first. For now, we’re just telling them both that we’ll be seeing them soon. We’ll talk in more detail about things when we see them in person and have a translator with us.

Another bit of awesome news we got is that the director of our kids children’s home says she noticed a tremendous change in Kristine and Olegs after they got back home…especially Olegs. Olegs was more introverted and sad when he first got here, but after his experience in America and with us, the director says he’s now like a different child. He is much more outgoing and self-confident now. That warmed our hearts tremendously to hear that. He is such a precious kid. Kristine, of course, was our little social butterfly from the very beginning, but she’s now happier too. It’s amazing how just a few short weeks with them made such a difference in their lives and ours too. They understand now that we really do love them and care about them and we haven’t forgotten about them since they left. We feel like our weekly phone calls and letters go a long way to remind them that just because we’re miles apart, we’re always thinking of them.

8/27 - We Talked to the Kids Again!

We tried calling the kids yesterday morning and were a little bummed when we couldn’t get them on the phone. No one answered the phone at the children’s home this time. Rob and I had already decided that if we didn’t reach them on Saturday we’d try the same time on Sunday. We were so excited when someone answered on Sunday. We politely asked for Olegs and Kristine in Latvian and the woman on the other end shouted for someone to go get them. Then we heard lots of laughing in the background. We always assume they’re laughing at us because our attempts to speak their language must sound pretty funny to them.

A few minutes later Kristine was on the line and immediately started playing some sort of kiddy music into the phone for us. It sounded like that music you hear when the ice cream truck is coming down the street. At least that was before she disconnected us and we had to call back. LOL! Our Kristine is quite the little social butterfly. A couple of her girlfriends came to the phone with her and they were all giggling the entire time. We asked her what they were doing today and she said they were playing with Barbies. She said the weather in Latvia was rainy today. We asked her if she enjoyed her time in America and she exclaimed “Yes, Yes, Yes!” Once again we told her how much we missed her and loved her and she said “me too.” She told us they will be starting school this week and she isn’t looking forward to it. Next she put her friend, Agnese, on the phone and we got to talk to her for a minute. She did more laughing than talking. Each time we asked her something, she’d say “What?” and put Kristine on the phone to translate. We’re so happy that Kristine felt comfortable putting her friends on the phone. We can’t wait to meet all their friends.

We only talked to Olegs for a few minutes this time. We pictured the poor little guy surrounded by Kristine and her giggling friends and imagined he probably wanted to get away from them as fast as he could. LOL! He sounded happy to hear from us. We talked to him long enough to tell him we love him and miss him so much. He also replied, “me too.” We asked him what he was doing today and he just said “nothing.” We asked him if he was having fun and he said “no.” He later admitted that he had played a little bit. He said he was glad to be going back to school. We told him how smart we think he is and he said “thank you.” Then in a flash he was off to something else and Kristine was back on the phone.

It was a great call. We told them both that we hope to see them soon and we want them to show us their favorite places in Riga. We told them that we will call them every week. Rob and I can’t wait to hear when our first court date will be so we’ll know when we’ll be traveling to Latvia. In the meantime, we look forward to these weekly calls. We’ll be thinking about Olegs and Kristine this week as they go back to school.

8/20 - Time for More Fundraising! Next Garage Sale Sept. 9th!

As I’m sure you can imagine, this whole adoption process will cost thousands of dollars. In our case, the costs will double because we’re doing two separate adoptions. While we’re waiting to find out when our first court date will be for Kristine, it’s a good time to work on some more fundraisers. We have tentatively scheduled another garage sale/bake sale fundraiser for Saturday, September 9th. We’ll be collecting donated items to sell again so if any of you have items sitting in your closets or basements that you’d like to get rid of, we’ll be happy to take them off your hands. We also need to borrow some tables if any of you have a table or two you wouldn’t mind loaning us so we can display the sale items. We’ll take all kinds of items…housewares, linens, furniture, kid’s clothes, toys, books, tools, etc. We had all kinds of things donated for our last two sales. You’d be surprised at what people will buy!!

I’ll be selling my scrumptious banana bread again for $15/loaf and my popular monster chip cookies for $10/dozen. If you’d like to place an order, just shoot me an email.

Also, don’t forget that I’m a Mary Kay rep if you’d like to place an order on my website. All profits from my Mary Kay sales are also going towards our adoption fund. There are a lot of great new products to choose from and I offer FREE shipping/delivery. Remember, I can get you a free sample if there’s a product you’d like to try before buying.

So please spread the word about our sale on Sept. 9th. Thank you so much to all of you who have donated items for our sales and those of you who have been praying for us. Please pray for good weather and a successful sale!

8/20 - We Talked to Kristine Today!

This morning we called the children’s home again at 9:00 a.m. (4:00 p.m. Latvian time) and were able to get Kristine on the phone. Like yesterday, I was on one phone and Rob was on the other extension. This time when we called, someone answered in Latvian so I said “Labdien, Kristine Ludzu”. The woman then started speaking to us in Latvian. I quickly said “Ne Latviski” which means “No Latvian.” We heard a lot of rustling in the background and we could tell she was calling for someone to get Kristine.

A few seconds later Kristine was on the line. She was a little reserved. We could hear that there were other people in the room so it was probably hard for her to talk. She didn’t speak much English to us, but we were able to tell her in Latvian how much we loved her and missed her. She quietly said, “Me too.” It was SO good to hear her voice. She said she was doing good and that camp was fun. She asked us what we were doing and we told her our plans for the day. She said she was playing with her friends today.

Once again, we didn’t care what we talked about. We were just so thankful to hear her sweet voice over the phone. We plan to call both kids weekly now and will continue to write letters to keep in touch. Hopefully, we’ll be going to see them in Latvia real soon. We can’t wait!!!

8/19 - We Got to Talk to Olegs!

Rob and I got word yesterday that we could call the kids at 9:00 this morning (4:00 p.m. Latvian time). FINALLY!!! We prepared a list of things we wanted to tell them and questions to ask. Then we purchased a prepaid calling card PIN online in order to save some in international long distance charges. A friend of ours told us about this website where you can purchase discounted long distance calling card PINs online and have them emailed to you. This will work fine for now but we're hoping the children's home will eventually get Skype which is an online service that allows you to make international calls for FREE from your computer. You just need to download the software and hook up a microphone (and optional digital videocam) to your computer. It will make things much easier once that gets set up.

Anyway, back to our phone call. We had no idea what to expect since we hadn’t talked to Olegs & Kristine in weeks. We didn’t know if they’d be real quiet and shy again or if they’d be talkative, etc. It was decided that I’d do the talking at first since I’d at least figured out how to ask for them to be put on the phone. Rob and I were so excited we were almost giddy!

When 9:00 came around, Rob and I each got on an extension and I dialed the number. We planned to ask for Kristine first and then talk to Olegs. The phone rang about 3 times and this voice answered in English…"Hello." It was unbelievable that we were talking to someone way across the globe in Latvia!! I said "Labdien, Kristine Ludzu" which means "Good Afternoon, Kristine please." The voice on the phone said "no, Olegs" so I assumed that they were telling us we’d have to talk to Olegs first so I said "okay, we talk to Olegs." Well it turns out that I was speaking to Olegs!!! He had answered the phone!! I thought I was speaking to some young girl in the office. LOL! We had a good laugh about that and then Olegs began talking up a storm!! He sounded so excited and happy to talk to us!! We were impressed that he was even speaking more English to us. He had obviously been practicing. We told him how impressed and proud we were of his English skills and he politely said "thank you."

Olegs told us that Kristine wasn’t able to make the call and that we should try again at a different time. We think he said we are supposed to try again tomorrow morning but we’re not sure. Some things were a little hard to understand. We’ll just go ahead and call again in the morning and hopefully we can get her on the phone. We asked Olegs if he had been playing Uno and he said he played with his friends who he described as “crazy.” LOL! He said camp was okay but we couldn’t quite make out what kinds of activities they did at camp. He said they played cards but I’m not sure what else. It didn’t really matter what we talked about. It was just SO good to have our little man on the other end of the line. He is so precious!!

Rob and I kept telling Olegs how much we missed him and loved him. It melted our hearts when he replied in English..."me too." We told him that Winston and the kitties missed him too and he laughed. We had some great laughs about some of the funny things that happened while they were here. We asked him if he’d had any lemons and he chuckled (remembering our outing at Red Top Mountain when he ate the lemons, rind and all, and made himself sick in the process).

Now that the kids are back from camp, we want to set up a time to call each week so we can talk to them. If we can just hear their voices periodically, it will go a long way towards helping us get through this long wait that’s ahead of us! Rob and I keep replaying this morning’s call in our minds. We’ll be on cloud nine for the next couple of days for sure!!

8/18 - Our Documents Are In Latvia!

We confirmed that our attorney, Agnese, received our dossier paperwork this week. Today she emailed us to say she gave it all to the translation company to have it translated into Latvian for the court. Once it’s translated, she’ll submit it to the orphan court. After that, they’ll assign us a court date and then we’ll book our first flight. YIKES!! We feel like we’ll probably be traveling on our first trip to Latvia sometime in October but for all we know it could be earlier. Not much we can do but wait right now.

The kids are expected back at the children’s home this weekend so we’re hoping to talk to them soon. We also heard that the children’s home director and possibly Helen and Ilga (the chaperones who accompanied the children to the US) will be interviewing the children (or at least Kristine) about their wishes concerning adoption. Since our kids are older, their wishes are taken into consideration by the court. Of course, we expect them both to say “yes.”

8/11 - Sending our Dossier to Latvia!

The highlight of today was getting our paperwork to our new friends who are traveling to Latvia on Sunday for their 2nd court date. We are so thankful to them for taking our dossier to our attorney. Things seem to be happening really fast. I don’t know if it’s this situation in particular or life in general. I just remember as a kid how time would never move fast enough. I remember crossing the days off of the calendar waiting for school to be out for the summer. Now it seems like life passes at lightning speed. Anyway, now that the paperwork is on its way to Latvia we need to get ready to GO to Latvia. WOW!! Sometimes we can’t believe we’re actually doing this. It’s so exciting!!

Once the attorney receives our paperwork, the first step will be for her to have it all translated before giving it to the court. That should take about 1-2 weeks. After that, we just sit tight and wait to be notified of our court date. The kids are due back from camp in another week and we hope to call them when they’re back at their children’s home. It’s so hard not being able to talk to them.

8/10 - A Little Bump in the Road!

Rob and I got to the sheriff’s office this morning at 8:00 am and luckily we were waited on by the really nice woman who had helped us when we originally came to get our background check letters. She’s not the one who actually types up the letters but just handles the requests and forwards them to someone else for processing. We explained to her our situation and gave her one of our incorrect letters and showed her that they weren’t notarized correctly. We had to tell her that we needed new letters no later than tomorrow because we’re sending our paperwork to Latvia this weekend. As soon as she realized the urgency of the situation, her friendly smile turned into a look of almost desperation…like she was scared of something. At this point, we expected her to tell us that there was nothing they could do for us and that we’d have to come back in a couple of days.

It turns out that she was actually a little afraid of asking the lady who handles the letters to redo our letters. Apparently, that just isn’t done. She told us that there’s some lady downstairs that types up the letters and everything would depend on “whether or not she’s in a good mood.” Rob and I pictured some old crabby lady in a dark dingy smoke-filled room with only a small desk and a typewriter. The friendly lady told us to sit tight and she would do her best to talk to the cranky woman. We waited and waited and soon afterwards she came back with new letters so I guess that woman was having a good day. She had done one new letter for Rob and one for me. That was great except we needed TWO letters each!! So then we had to explain that we needed one more letter for each of us. The poor woman looked overwrought and told us you just don’t understand…”going down there to talk to that woman is like cutting ice with a butter knife.” Those were her exact words…no joke!! Nevertheless, she went down there again for us and eventually came back with our additional letters. WHEW!!! We thanked her over and over and would’ve given her a big bear hug if it weren’t for the big glass window between us. She just smiled and said she was just happy that we were adopting and wished us well. What a nice lady!!

Now that we had our new letters, I took them right away to be apostilled. Since everything was in order this time, they apostilled them with no problem. With that, our dossier is now complete!!! YIPPEE!! Now, to get our paperwork to Latvia!

8/8 - Apostilling Documents

Since we’ve finally gathered all of our documents for our dossier and had them all notarized, the next step was to get the documents apostilled. Since Kristine hadn’t been cleared for international adoption, Rob and I had decided we would wait until she did get cleared before sending the documents to Latvia and wiring money to our attorney. That was until we got an email this evening that said Kristine IS now cleared for international adoption so now we’re back to rushing around!!!!

One of the other families who is adopting a child from the Christmas hosting is leaving for Latvia on Sunday for their second court date, so they will be hand delivering our documents to our attorney for us. It costs about $130-$150 to FedEx paperwork to Latvia so this will save a little bit (every little bit counts at this point). We had originally heard they were leaving around August 21st so we had planned to wait until then. But then we later found out that they’re actually leaving THIS weekend so we’ve been running around like crazy gathering last minute items, getting things notarized, etc.!!!

Today I took our documents to be apostilled and ran into a little snag. It seems the notary who notarized our background check letters didn’t notarize them correctly. There has to be a notary statement on the letters and there wasn’t one!!! ARRRGGGHHHH!!! So the lady at the apostille place said we would have to redo them. Let me add that the people at the Georgia Superior Court Clerks’ Cooperative Authority office (the ones who do the apostilles) were some of the friendliest people in the world. Sometimes government workers get a bad rap but these people were awesome. I was able to walk right in and hand them my paperwork. They did everything while I waited, except for the ones they were unable to process.

So Rob and I had to decide the best way to get new background check letters. How would we tell the lady at the sheriff’s office that she screwed up? They don’t take that kind of news too well. We ultimately decided we’ll get up early and be at the sheriff’s office first thing tomorrow morning. If I have to start crying to get something done, then that’s just what I’ll have to do. :-)We’ve got to have those letters by Sunday!!!!

8/1 - Making Progress Towards Adoption

Today it felt good to make some progress. We got confirmation that the attorney we were hoping for has agreed to help us. We’ve been communicating with her via email and she’s been so great at responding to our questions. Another big bonus is that she speaks English. The first thing on the list was to confirm what items we need for our dossier. She told us not to send anything more than what was asked for on the Procedures of Adoption section of the Latvian Ministry’s webpage. There were some extra items that we had gathered so it was good to know this ahead of time so we didn’t waste money apostilling extra documents.

For those of you who may be interested, below are the items we’re sending as part of our dossier. We think we’ve narrowed the list down enough to match what the Latvian government requires. Let me add that this is only what we believe to be correct. We are by no means adoption experts, so don’t rely on this list to be exact but use it as a guideline. Next thing on the agenda is to get these items apostilled so we can send them to Latvia.

• Initial Application to Adopt a Child
• Home Study, including Agency License
• Verification of Residence
• Autobiography - Wife
• Autobiography - Husband
• Financial Statement
• Police Clearance - Wife
• Police Clearance - Husband
• Color Passport Copy - Wife
• Color Passport Copy - Husband

Through an email exchange with our attorney, we discussed each child’s situation. We confirmed that we will have to focus on adopting Kristine right now because Olegs is not yet cleared for adoption. So that means we'll have Kristine home before Olegs. Kristine is free for adoption and only needs to be cleared for international adoption. Her case should move rather quickly. Olegs, however, is not yet free for adoption so his case will take much longer. We knew this before we hosted him and we chose to host him anyway in the hopes that he would eventually be cleared. We believe that he will also be cleared but it will take time and patience. There is a lot of red tape involved but we are prepared to wait as long as it takes. In the meantime, we will write to both children and try to set up times to call them when they return from camp. They should be back at their childrens’ home next weekend. And of course we will continue to do lots of praying!!

7/29 - Getting Down to Business

We’ve almost had to go through a grieving process since the kids left. We reached a pretty low point and have had to pull ourselves out of it. Each day is better though and now we’re ready to get back to the business of compiling our dossier so we can officially request to adopt them. We almost have everything we need. Yesterday we received our final homestudy documents in the mail. YIPPEE!!! We only have a few minor things to gather and then we’re ready to get our documents apostilled and send everything to Latvia. Now, if only we knew who to send it to. There is a wonderful attorney over there who has been helping some of the host families from the Christmas hosting with their adoptions. We’re praying that she’ll be able to help us as well. We had heard that she’s expecting a baby so we’re not sure how that will affect things.

Tonight we had our debriefing meeting with the other host familes. It was so great to see everyone again. We hadn’t seen each other since the airport and we were all pretty upset and emotional that day. All of the host families have such a special bond and I know we’ve formed life-long friendships through this experience. It will be so neat for us to all get together when our children come home and celebrate Latvian holidays together. One thing that was a little hard for Rob and me was to hear how many of the other famliles had been in touch with their children already. We found out yesterday through Ilga that our children are at a summer camp until August 21st!! It’s apparently way out in the country somewhere so that means we can’t contact them until they get back. It seems like an eternity. I only hope they don’t forget us. Of course we’re happy for the other families because we’re just as excited for them, but we can’t help but be a little jealous.

One bit of good news we found out was that Olegs did get his suitcase after all. We found out that he did receive it when the airlines said he would and everything was intact. Helen (one of the chaperones) was so kind to take it to him at camp so he’d have his things. We were so grateful to her. At least we can rest assured that he has his stuff. We only hope the other children haven’t taken any of his or Kristine’s things. Olegs had asked us for a small padlock for his suitcase because he said there were thieves (he pointed to the word “thief” in our phrase book) at the childrens’ home. Of course we gave him a lock, and Kristine too, because we just couldn’t face the thought of someone taking their things. That may or may not have been a good idea but it at least made all of us feel better.

At the debriefing meeting we exchanged emails with some of the other host families so we can keep in touch throughout the adoption process. Everyone seems to be at different stages of the paperwork gathering…some are just starting their paperwork and others are in the middle of their home studies. It’s just so good to be going through this at the same time so we can encourage each other and compare notes. Each day we’re trying to remember that we’re one day closer to bringing our kids home!

7/26 - Back to Reality

Today Rob and I both returned to work and it was a good thing because we kept busy and didn’t have too much time to sulk. I had done so much crying the evening before that I thought I was all cried out. I was okay until my friends at work asked me about the kids and then the tears would start. Luckily, I didn’t fall apart though and was able to control myself. It really felt good to be around friends who were so supportive.

Then the email came later this morning. The kids made it safely back to Latvia….but Olegs’ suitcase didn’t make it. Here came the tears again at the thought of my little boy in a big airport without all of his things. I thought of all of the clothes he had in there, his favorite superman doll, his trucks, etc. The airline said it would arrive the next day but you know how airlines are. We didn’t believe that and were trying to figure out how we could send poor Olegs a package to replace the things in his suitcase.

It was hard coming home from work to our quiet house and not being able to contact the kids just yet. We miss tucking them in at night, playing Uno, the daily pool visits, etc. Believe it or not I even miss the pouting and the neverending drink spills! LOL! We knew going into this that it would be a long process so it will require every ounce of patience we have to get through the long wait before we can bring them home. Rob and I will both feel better once we can talk to them so at least then they won't seem as far away.

7/25 - Saying Goodbye...At Least For Now :-(

When we first woke up this morning, for a brief instant I pondered what fun things we had planned for the day. It quickly hit me that this is the day we’ve been dreading. Today the kids must return to Latvia. Luckily, we had packed their things the night before so we were able to take the time to go out for a nice leisurely breakfast. While sitting there we cut up with each other as usual, but there was a sadness in the air. I had to try to focus on other things because I felt like I would cry at any second if I thought too much about them leaving. For the most part I held it together until we got to the airport.

On the way to the airport, we found a place to stop so we could say our official goodbyes. We had to tell them, “we say goodbye now, because we cry at airport.” Of course they laughed at us but we just hugged them and told them over and over how much we loved them. Then the tears started so we quickly composed ourselves and continued our drive to the airport. The whole way to the airport, the events of the past four weeks replayed in my mind like a movie. It was so tempting to just pass up the airport and keep on driving, but of course that wasn’t an option. We ultimately decided that the Latvian government would probably frown upon that and hold it against us in our adoption hearings. LOL!

At the airport it was so good to see the other families. We were all in this together and there to support each other. The inevitable moment of separation was quickly approaching and I only wished somehow we could stop time from passing so we could have just a few more moments with them. Soon they were all summoned to the security line to make their way to their gate. We both grabbed them and just hugged them so tight and kept telling them how much we loved them until we had to let them go. We weren’t allowed to accompany them to their gate but had to watch them walk away from a glass hallway that ran the length of the security line. We lined up along the glass with the other families and the tears just flowed and flowed. Olegs remained composed but kept looking back and waving at us until he was out of sight. Kristine, with tears flowing, held onto her girlfriend, Gertrude for comfort as she followed. The heartache seemed unbearable as we watched them walk away. For four weeks we bonded as a family and now it was like the rug was pulled out from underneath us. One thing that meant a lot to us was that our pastor took the time to come to the airport and support all of us. He led all of the families in a nice prayer that was really comforting.

The ride home was difficult as we dreaded going home to our quiet house. We couldn’t bear to hear the Kelly Clarkson CD that was in the CD player as that was Kristine’s favorite. That used to be my favorite CD but now it makes me cry. In time I know that will change. We got home and the house seemed so empty. Even Winston was looking for the children and seemed depressed too. Our hearts are broken right now, but we told ourselves we wouldn’t sink into a depression. We have to focus on the next steps in our journey and get our paperwork together so we can officially request to adopt them. We’ve got to get these kids back!!

7/24 - Kristine's Name Day & Our Last Day Together

Today is Kristine’s Name Day. It’s celebrated like a birthday. We had no clue there was such a thing until Ilga told us that it’s a big deal in Latvia and that we would need to get Kristine a gift. In Latvia, each day of the year has certain names associated with it and people with those names celebrate their day by receiving gifts. All their friends are supposed to call or visit them on that day. I’m not exactly clear on this but I read somewhere that the names are related to traditional feast days for saints or something. Kristine wasn’t about to let us forget either. She kept telling us over and over that the 24th was her name day.

Rob had to work today so we decided to wait until he got home to officially celebrate Kristine’s name day. The kids and I met him for lunch at a country buffet restaurant which had good home cooked food. Of course as soon as we sat down with our plates….WHHHOOOSSSHHHHHH!!! It happened again! This time Olegs spilled his drink!! AAAARRRRGGGHHHH!! Luckily there was a napkin dispenser on the table so we grabbed a pile of napkins and sopped up the spill. Kristine came close to spilling hers too but thankfully didn’t this time.

After lunch Rob brought the kids home and I went to the store to get a couple of special goodbye gifts for them. Aside from it being Kristine’s name day, we wanted to get them each a special going away gift. We decided that a couple of cross necklaces would be special. I found a really cute glass one with small green and red flowers for Kristine and then a masculine one on a leather necklace perfect for Olegs.

When I got home we presented Kristine with the princess cupcakes we got her and sang “Happy Name Day to you, Happy Name Day to you, Happy Name Day Kristine, Happy Name Day to you!!” to the tune of our happy birthday song. We had no clue what to do so we just decided to treat it like a birthday. We had gotten her a little scrapbook photo album, some earrings, lip gloss and a little pink ceramic dish with a cover that has ballet slippers on it and says “follow your dreams.” It’s hard to describe but it just looked like her to me. She loved all the attention and told us that she never had anything like this at the children’s home. We could see Olegs was looking a little dejected since he didn’t have anything. We had gotten him a new photo album as a little something so we gave that to him. Then we presented them with their necklaces and told them to keep them close to their hearts. We told them that we all needed to keep praying for each other when they go back to Latvia. They both tried their necklaces on right away and hugged us tight to thank us. We could tell that they understood those gifts were from the heart and very special.

This evening some of our friends came over and brought some small gifts for Olegs and Kristine. So many of our friends have gotten to know them and are just as sad to see them go. We spent the rest of the evening washing their clothes and packing their suitcases. They had to pick and choose which toys to take because everything wouldn’t fit into their suitcases. We just told them we’d get those things to them later.

Because this was our last night together, we stayed up late and played Uno until we couldn’t stay awake any longer. We got an extra Uno game so that they each could take one back to play with their friends in Latvia. It’s still hard to believe our time together is coming to an end.

7/23 - Goodbye Pool Party

Today we went to the goodbye pool party for all of the host families and children at one of the host family’s houses. Everyone brought food to share so there was lots to eat and it was a fun day. It’s always great to see the other families and see how much fun they’re having with their kids too. We are so excited that most of them have also decided to adopt.

A couple of families at the party are already in the middle of their adoption process. They had hosted kids at Christmas and had already been to their first court dates in Latvia. It was great to hear about their experiences and learn more about how the process works. We are so thankful to know of others currently going through the adoption process because they’re able to help us learn what to expect. While the children were swimming, Rob and I got to really talk to the other parents and the chaperones and get many of our questions answered about the next steps we’ll need to take. We are almost finished compiling our dossier documents so we’ll be ready to send everything to Latvia soon. It was just good to make sure we were doing things correctly.

The kids had a blast and stayed in the pool almost the entire time. They got out once or twice to get a bite to eat but quickly jumped back in. It was hard to get them to leave. This was kind of a sad day because we all knew the next time we’d see each other would be at the airport when we say goodbye. We tried not to think about too much.

7/22 - Rob's Mom Visits

Rob’s mom came up for a visit this weekend so she got to meet Olegs and Kristine. The kids were pretty quiet at first but soon opened up. They enjoyed showing her their picture albums and scrapbooks. I wonder if they understood that this person might be their future grandmother. We had a good time. This morning Rob had to work so Sharon, the kids and I went out for breakfast…or lunch depending on how you look at it. We got there just as they were beginning to serve lunch so the kids were able to get burgers and fries while Sharon and I got breakfast. All was well until WHHOOOSSSHHH…Kristine spilled her drink AGAIN! Almost every time we’ve gone out she’s either spilled her drink or come close to spilling her drink!! AAARRRGGGHHH!! She tends to be very animated when she talks and uses her hands a lot. Anyway, we got our stack of napkins and mopped up the table, got her a new drink and continued our meal without any further incidents. In the afternoon we ran a couple of errands and stopped by Target to get them some toothpaste, shampoo, soap, etc. to take back with them to Latvia. It’s really starting to hit us that they’ll be leaving soon. :-(

The kids were great until we decided to take pictures out in front of the house. We asked Sharon to take some pictures of the four of us since we don’t have many. We had 4 or 5 cameras by the time you counted up the kids’ cameras, ours and Sharon’s cameras so it took a little while to take all of the pictures we wanted. The kids grew impatient of course…Kristine huffed and puffed but put up with it for the most part. Olegs, however, got to the point where he had had enough and muttered something in Russian at us and ran off while Sharon was trying to get our picture. This is the point where Rob and I usually look at each other to decide who will go and talk to him. Olegs had run up to his room so I went up and tried to explain to him that his behavior was unacceptable. Since he was rude to Sharon, we’d have to put his camera away for awhile. He wasn’t too happy about that but he understood that he misbehaved and that there are consequences. After a time of pouting, it was bedtime anyway so he and Kristine got their baths and then we gave them their nightly hugs & kisses and tucked them in bed. We knew it would be like the movie Groundhog Day again tomorrow anyway. Once we woke up in the morning, we’ll all be friends again and start all over.

7/20 - Trip to Six Flags

We had some different friends donate 4 tickets to Six Flags and Rob got the day off so we all got to go together. I’m not a big Six Flags fan because I’m scared of 99% of the rides, but I was determined to have a good time. My friends used to love me when I was younger because I would hold all their bags for them when they went on the roller coasters. Most of the time today I spent watching Rob and the kids from the sidelines and taking pictures. I did ride a couple of rides like the flume ride, the carousel and the Thunder River ride. I couldn’t believe when the kids got on the big roller coasters with Rob. They weren’t scared of anything. When we were walking around we came upon a bunch of the Hanna-Barbera cartoon characters and Superfriends characters. Kristine and Olegs let us take a couple of pictures with them but not too many. They had to be cool, you know.

Once again, the heat was excrutiating. There’s nothing worse than sweating profusely while waiting in a long line for a two second ride. Luckily, we came later in the day to try to beat the heat. In the evening it wasn’t so bad because a lot of people started going home and it cooled off considerably. All in all it was a fun day. We stayed until the park closed. Everyone had fun, that is until we announced it was time to leave. Olegs understood and was okay with it but Kristine commenced to pouting and stopped speaking to us. We’re getting at least one pout per day. LOL! We tried to think of how they must feel. There was so much excitement all day and then in a flash it was over. They might wonder if they'll ever see anything like this again. Maybe that in itself was enough to make her sad. We stopped at Burger King on the way home for a late night snack so everyone was happy again after that.

This is our last big outing before the kids leave. I can’t believe all of the fun things we’ve crammed into just a few short weeks. It’s starting to hit us that they’ll have to leave in a few days. We know we’ll get through it but it’s gonna be hard.

7/19 - Trip to Stone Mountain & A Child's Prayer

On one of our prior outings with Ilga and Janis, Ilga asked about the “mountain of stone” near Atlanta. She had heard about Stone Mountain Park and really wanted to see it. A couple of our close friends just happened to donate tickets so we were able to take Ilga, Janis and the kids to Stone Mountain. Rob had to work so my friend, Jerrie, came along so she could meet the kids.

We decided to go later in the day to try to beat the heat but it was still stifling hot. Once there, the first stop was the water park…that is once we found it!!! Let’s just say if you have plans on going to that water park bring your compass because you’ll pretty much have to use your survival skills to find it. The one tiny sign I saw and the worthless map were of no help. Nothing like showing our new friends around and getting lost in the process. I’m not sure they knew we were lost but they probably sensed my frustration by my frequent sighs. Oh well, we finally found it and they all got to swim so they were happy. Jerrie and I sat on the sidelines and took pictures of everyone as they came down the slides.

After that we decided to see the dog show with the “Extreme” something or other canines. I’ll tell you right now…don’t waste your time on the dog show. I’m a big dog lover but this show was the most boring experience. Even Ilga and Janis said they could’ve passed that up and been happy. LOL!! The dogs didn't even do the tricks pictured in the brochure. It was a couple of border colllies running around and they were supposed to catch frisbies but they dropped more than they caught. They ran around the ring a couple of times, ran through a tunnel or two and “poof” show was over. Even the kids were bored to tears.

Of course the trip wouldn’t be complete without a skyride to the top of Stone Mountain. It was a perfect day to be able to see for miles. Ilga and Janis loved the view and so did the kids. Olegs got a kick out of throwing small rocks off the side of the mountain and watching how far they would go. Kristine enjoyed the view too but complained about it being too hot and about her new tennis shoes hurting. Ilga and Janis decided they’d like to walk the trail down the mountain so the kids, Jerrie and I all went into the visitor center and got something cold to drink. Even though there was a breeze on top of the mountain, it was still burning hot and it was good to hang out in the air conditioning for awhile.

We met up with Ilga and Janis a short time later down on the memorial lawn where people gather for the evening laser light show. We ate our burgers and hot dogs while the lasers and fireworks lit up the mountain. The show was set to music so it was fun to clap and tap our feet to the tunes. The kids were happy to get some glow in the dark keepsakes to take home. Olegs got some sort of light saber type thing and Kristine got this really cool glass ball on a wand that had multi-colored swirling lights in it.

During the ride home everyone was quiet except for Kristine and Ilga who were really talking intensely about something. I couldn’t help but wonder what they were talking about. It seemed like a deep conversation and I wasn’t about to jump in and ask Ilga to stop talking and translate for me. Ilga told me later that Kristine was asking her questions about God (while Olegs listened closely) and wondering if she was praying the right way. Ilga said she told her that God especially listens to children’s prayers and that it’s best to start a prayer by thanking God for the blessings He’s given you and then ask Him for what you want. Ilga next led Kristine in a prayer and then Olegs asked her to pray with him too. It was so touching because it was dark and all was quiet except for their sweet voices praying. Ilga said the prayer and each child repeated it after her. Ilga told me later that they both asked Jesus to come into their hearts. Kristine also told me that she and Olegs prayed for a family. If only we could tell them He’s already answered your prayers. We want to be that family!

7/18 - Paperwork Chase

Since Rob and I have no doubt that we want to adopt both Olegs and Kristine, we’ve already been gathering our dossier paperwork which is required by Latvia. One of those items on the list is a physicians report signed by our doctor. The form has a checklist of ailments that our doctor has to check off for us as being either "negative" or "positive." In order for our doctor to sign off on the report, we’re required to have some bloodwork done. Bascially, the Latvian government wants to feel confident that we’re not going to adopt these two children and then drop dead.

Because we needed our forms signed and notarized, Rob and I made an appointment to go together for the bloodwork and get our forms signed by our doctor and notarized while we were there. Then I would go back to pick them up once the doctor got our blood test results. Well, since we were both going we had to take the kids with us. Poor things…I think they thought we might have some serious health problems because we were both going for bloodwork. Of course we couldn’t tell them that we were going through all of this for them.

When it was time for the nurse to take our blood, we all got to go back to the lab together. When we got to the lab, we noticed a Russian calendar on the wall so of course we asked about it. It turns out the nurse taking our blood was Russian!!! AMAZING!! We shared with her that we are hosting the children and she was so excited for us. She understood that we hoped to be their forever family and she was just so kind and supportive. She immediately began speaking to the kids in Russian, asking them how old they were, where they live, how they like school, etc. I think Olegs and Kristine were a little shocked at first (didn’t expect anyone Russian to pop up in the doctor’s office) but seemed to light up as they got to talk with her in Russian. It was just too awesome. Sometimes I think the Lord places people in our path just to bless us.

The nurse wished us well and next we went to meet with our doctor to sign the forms with the notary present. We told the kids to wait in the waiting area while we finished up. We appreciate so much that our doctor took the time to fill out 4 copies of the forms for EACH of us (that’s 8 forms!!!) since we have to put together two dossiers. It was quite time consuming. The notary was another really nice lady and told us how much she hoped things worked out for us. Turns out that she has also adopted children so she could totally relate to what we’re going through.

After the doctor’s office, we had a late breakfast at Waffle House where we had the usual challenge of helping the kids decide what they wanted to eat. We had a little excitement when I somehow managed to knock Kristine’s drink over and it seeped all over the table. Seems like whenever we’re out eating, one of us spills a drink but it’s usually one of the kids. We quickly cleaned it up and finished our meal.

Rob and I dropped the kids off at the house to stay with Cheryl (Grandmother’s caregiver) so we could also go get our GBI prints done for our dossier. We’re not 100% sure that we need this done since we can get local background checks that check the statewide database and since we’ve already had FBI prints done. Nevertheless, we figured it was better to be safe than sorry and go ahead and get it done just in case. We also requested new copies of our local background checks while we were at the sheriff’s office. We had gotten these for the hosting program back in March, but we decided to get new ones now since we need 4 copies each for our dossier. Luckily, our county will do them for free if it’s for an adoption.

We have just a few more items to compile for our dossiers now. Our plan is to have our dossiers ready to send to Latvia as soon as the kids go back home. We know we’re gonna be heartbroken when they leave so we hope to bring them back as soon as possible afterwards.

7/17 - Dinner with Ilga & Janis

I had to work today so Rob stayed home with the kids. They helped him around the house and went grocery shopping with him to get ingredients for tonight’s dinner with Ilga and Janis. We had invited them for dinner since they hadn't been to our house yet and thought it would be fun to grill something out. I picked up Ilga and Janis on my way home from work. Ilga brought her video camera so she could take some pictures of our house and yard to show our kids’ childrens home director. She has offered to do whatever she can to help us through the process and we are so grateful.

Rob whipped up some steaks on the grill and they came out perfect as usual. We also enjoyed peel ‘n eat shrimp as an appetizer. I don’t think they had ever eaten shrimp before but they seemed to enjoy it. Rob also cooked corn on the cobb on the grill so Ilga and Janis got to try that for the first time too.

After dinner, we looked at pictures. Ilga brought some of her family and the kids shared their pictures with her. We ended the evening with a swim at our neighborhood pool. We had fun tossing a tennis ball around the pool to each other. It was just a fun evening with our new Latvian friends.

7/16 - The Lemons and Uno Drama

Today after church we spent the afternoon with Ilga and Janis. They are really great people and we have grown to be good friends. We decided to take them to brunch at Red Top Mountain this time and go for a short hike afterwards. Usually when we go there for brunch it’s a holiday so it’s crowded. Today was perfect. There were only a few people there so we didn’t have much competition for the food in the buffet. The scene couldn’t have been better. We were seated close to a window where a hummingbird feeder hung right outside. As if on cue, two hummingbirds came by to show off for Ilga and Janis. I think that was the first time they’d ever seen hummingbirds. Ilga quickly grabbed her video camera and got some pictures.

Taking the kids to buffets is the way to go because they can pick out what they like. You never know what they’re gonna pick either. Kristine picked out a few different things but her favorite was the sunflower seeds. She kept going back to fill her small plate with more of those. We kept joking and telling her that she was eating bird food. Then there was Olegs who confessed that he loves lemons so of course we had to order the little guy some lemons. He got his bowl of sliced lemons and commenced to eating them, rind and all!! UGGGHHH! He told us that he eats them like that at the children’s home so we just let him eat on. It all caught up to him by the time we were ready to leave though. He had to excuse himself numerous times to go to the “toilette”…he’d get up and go and then come back and go again and come back. We’d say, “Olegs okay?”…he’d say “Yes” and then a few seconds later “No, Olegs not okay.” We decided then and there “no more lemons” for Olegs. LOL!

After brunch we took a nice walk on the trail around Lake Allatoona and it was pretty but too darn hot!! Going for a hike sounded like a good idea when we talked about it in our air-conditioned car. Despite the heat, Ilga and Janis seemed to enjoy it because Rob pointed out the different types of plants and they discussed the types of plants in Latvia. The kids and I couldn’t wait to get back to the car. Ultimately, it was a fun day though.

That evening after dropping off Ilga and Janis, the kids, Rob and I decided to play a game of Uno. It was surprisingly easy to teach the kids how to play and now they want to play it every night. As you may or may not know, the goal of Uno is to be the first one to get rid of all your cards so it’s no fun to get one of those cards that makes you have to draw cards from the deck. We’ve all gotten to where we joke and pick on the person who winds up with the dreaded “+2” card or “+4” card (meaning that person has to draw either 2 or 4 cards). Our sweet Olegs particularly loves this and dances around and taunts other players when he’s able to play a card that makes the next player have to draw cards. Well, this particular day, he was the recipient of the dreaded +4 card so we kidded him about it like we’ve all done many times before. For some reason he didn’t take it too well this time. He threw his cards on the table and ran upstairs to his room. Rob and I looked at each other in astonishment as we each wanted the other to go up and resolve whatever the issue was.

I finally went up and was able to decipher that he was upset that we joked about him getting the +4 card. With my phrase book in hand, I was able to say “we no mean to hurt you…we just joke”. It was fine when he was the one joking about everyone else but when the joke was on him, it wasn’t funny. I think he understood and we all hugged in the end so no big deal. Rob and I joke about our lives being like that movie Groundhog Day. Remember how Bill Murray would wake up and start the same day over and over? Olegs wasn’t too happy with us tonight but in the morning we knew we’d all be friends again and start all over…like the slate is wiped clean every day.

7/15 - Horseback Riding Group Event

Today we had a fun group event with the other host families and their children. A family from our church has horses so they invited the children to come ride. Olegs and Kristine both love horses like I do so it was special to see how much they enjoyed riding. There were only 3 horses and 14 kids so the kids had to take turns being led around the ring. It didn’t seem to bother them though. Olegs found some boys to play soccer with while he was waiting his turn and Kristine had plenty of girls to hang out with so she was happy.

We all brought a picnic type meal for our families and hung out and visited with the other families after the kids finished riding. There were many adopted kids there with their adoptive parents as well. It was great for Olegs and Kristine to be able to hang out with other kids who had already been adopted from Latvia. When we got home, they named several of the children and asked us if they’d been adopted. We answered truthfully that “yes” they had but luckily Olegs and Kristine didn’t press us about their individual situations. They do ask us frequently if we like them and we tell them we not only like them, we LOVE them! They tell us they like us now too and once or twice have even said they love us. So sweet!

7/14 - FBI Prints Done, Hair Drama & A Traditional Latvian Meal?

Today was our appointment to get our FBI fingerprints done. We had sent in our I-600A application awhile back and got our appointment for fingerprints soon after. This is required since we plan to immigrate our children from another country. I had to work today so I went in early and met Rob at the INS office at 9:00. It was surprisingly painless. We walked right in and showed our ID's, filled out a short form and got fingerprinted right away. The kids stayed with Grandmother's caregiver, Cheryl, while we were gone. Rob came back home and I went back to work after our appointment.

Rob had scheduled a surprise appointment this afternoon for Kristine at the hair salon next to his shop. We had told Kristine that she would be getting a cut and style, however, she commenced to pouting once she found out she would not be getting color. When she doesn’t get her way, she crosses her arms and stops talking to us. Whatever! Rob pulled the car over and said “you pout, no hair salon”. She decided she’d rather have her hair styled so she quickly changed her mood.

That evening, I got home from work and the kids were out front waiting for me. There’s nothing better than having two children run up to you to give you hugs and kisses when you come home. I felt so special. However, they didn’t have time to give me hugs and kisses. They were running up to me because they couldn’t wait to tell me that Winston “pooed” on the front porch. So the hugs and kisses I’d been waiting for all day were quickly overshadowed by dog poo. LOL!

All day Kristine had been saying she wanted to fix us a traditional Latvian meal. Rob took her and Olegs to the grocery store and let her pick out her special ingredients. She picked out eggs, pepperoni, hot dogs, tomatoes, cherries and macaroni & cheese (if you’re like me, just thinking about this mix is enough to make you queasy…blaaaahh). I don’t know what we were expecting but our idea of a Latvian meal doesn’t contain those ingredients. I guess I was thinking something with potatoes. Kristine wanted to cook everything herself but I helped so I could make sure she didn’t destroy the kitchen. She fried the eggs one at a time and placed pepperoni slices on each egg. I finally had to convince her to put at least two eggs in the pan or we were gonna be there all night.

Rob and I quickly realized that there was no way out. She was so happy to make dinner for us that we knew no matter how it tasted we would have to eat it or risk hurting her feelings. She put the eggs on the plates with slices of tomato. Next we started the macaroni and cheese (yes, she wouldn’t start the mac n’ cheese until she finished the eggs…that was her system and it didn’t matter that the eggs would get cold while they’re sitting there waiting on the macaroni and cheese. Grandmother was smart. She didn’t bother waiting for the rest of the meal. She quickly ate her pepperoni eggs and tomato and high tailed it back to her room before she had to eat anymore. LOL!! We finished making the macaroni and cheese, cooked the hot dogs in the microwave and placed them on top of the mac n’ cheese. Kristine didn’t use just one or two hot dogs either…she dumped a WHOLE PACK OF HOT DOGS in there!!! She set the table for us and brought out a bowl of cherries and even served water in glasses with lemon slices on the edge.

Even though it’s not the traditional Latvian meal we envisioned, it was special that Kristine wanted to make it for us. It actually wasn’t that bad and it made her feel good to see us eat it.

7/13 - Dental Exams & A Trip to the Movies

Today we took the kids to the dentist for a check up. We had mentioned to Ilga (the children’s chaperone) that we were going so she offered to join us so she could translate. Kristine once again was very nervous about it (pacing and dancing around, biting her nails, etc.) since she thought it would hurt. Olegs wasn’t so nervous…at least he didn’t show it. Rob and I had already made our appointments for cleanings today so the children got to watch us and see that it wasn’t painful. Actually, they only watched for a few minutes. Once the hygenist put in the DVD of Spiderman, that was all they were focused on. It was a great experience for them. The exam room has a neat TV flat screen that hangs above the dental chair and a collection of kids’ movies so they switched back and forth between Shark Tales and Spiderman.

Surprisingly, Olegs’ teeth were in really good shape. He only had a few minor places that looked like the beginnings of cavities but nothing to worry about. Kristine’s teeth were in worse shape so she’ll require more dental work. Since we hope to adopt them both, we decided that we would wait so that we could get all the work done when they come back permanently so everything would be covered by our insurance. We would really like to say a special thanks to Dr. Stephen Hutchins and his staff (in Canton, GA) who were so great to us, providing exams even including X-rays. The hygenist also gave the children and Ilga bags of toothbrushes, toothpaste, dental floss and flouride. Before we left, the kids got to rummage through the goody bin located by the checkout counter. They each picked out a couple of items to take home…each got a set of “bubba” teeth and another small trinket. I got some really great pictures with the “bubba” teeth. Too funny!!

After the exams, we picked up Ilga’s husband Janis because he and Ilga had been wanting to go to the mall. I dropped them off to do some shopping and then the kids and I ate at Applebee’s where they got the usual hamburger and french fries. Kristine got Sprite to drink and for some reason kept calling it soap….maybe because it’s clear and had a lot of carbonation bubbles at the top. She kept saying how much she liked the soap. I think our server thought she was mentally challenged when she kept asking for more soap. You know that puzzled look that people give you when they’re uncomfortable and don’t know what to say. Well that’s the look he gave all of us before retreating to the kitchen. That was our cue to pay our bill and leave. LOL!

Next we went to see Garfield: A Tale of Two Kitties. It really was a cute movie and the kids laughed hysterically during much of it so I’d say it was a hit. I enjoyed being able to sit still for a couple of hours. That doesn’t happen too often these days so that was a special treat. We ended our day with a trip to the pool.

7/11 - Eye Exams and White Water

Today was our day to have another outing with the children’s chaperone, Ilga, and her husband Janis (yah-nis). Rob arranged for the children to have eye exams at his shop in the morning so luckily Ilga was able to translate for us. Olegs was brave and had no problem with the exam, but Kristine was very nervous and paced around the office. She does this walk/skip dance when she’s nervous so she was hopping all over the place while waiting for her turn. When her time came, she did great and was so relieved when it was over. We had no idea what to expect from them. Thankfully, there was no crying or screaming. We were so glad that Ilga could be there to reassure them that the exam wouldn’t be painful.

After the eye exams we got to switch gears and have fun. Poor Rob had to stay at the shop and work but the kids and I took Ilga and Janis to White Water, a local water park, for the rest of the day. The kids were awed by the huge park. They said they have a water park in Latvia but it’s only a fraction of the size. It was SO awesome to see the smiles on their faces the entire afternoon. There were even a couple of lifeguards who spoke Russian so they talked with Ilga, Janis and the kids in Russian. Ilga spotted them right away when she noticed the Russian names on their name tags. I wish so much that I could understand their language so I could know what they are saying. Maybe someday I’ll be able to learn.

I couldn’t get over how Olegs wanted to go on all of the scary (at least scary to me) attractions. I’m usually the big chicken when it comes to any type of ride that throws me around too much. He and Kristine talked me into going on the Tornado which has a giant slide that shoots you out into this HUGE swirling drain type thing where you go around and around and around until you land in a big pool…UGGGHHH. While waiting in line I pondered how I could escape but there was just no way out. Everyone else wanted to go on it so I couldn’t have the kids see me as a big chicken (“vista” in Latvian…LOL!). Kristine, Ilga and I rode on one intertube and Olegs and Janis rode on the other. I didn’t have the courage to open my eyes while we were being tossed about. I just held on for dear life and prayed for it to hurry up and be over. I’m so thankful to have survived and I actually feel good about conquering my fear. Next Olegs wanted to go on the Cliffhanger, a huge slide that’s many stories high and makes you feel like you’re free falling. Since the fear of falling is one of my biggest fears, I told him there’s no way I’m doing that. That didn’t stop Olegs though. He went on that too and wasn’t scared a bit. He loved to rub it in that he wasn't scared at all and I was TERRIFIED. It was so awesome to see the HUGE smile on his face. Another fun day!

7/7 - So Far, So Good!

Well, Rob and I have survived our first week and a half as host parents. We had been told that in the second week the kids might start to test us and we’ve had a couple of small discipline issues but nothing too big yet. The kids have started to huff and puff some when they don’t get their way. We have school (“skola” in Latvian) every morning when we go over our English/Latvian flash cards and some days go better than others. Sometimes one or both of them won't want to participate so I have to say “no skola, no poola” meaning “we no go to pool if you don’t participate in school.”

Kristine is the drama queen and biggest pouter. We’ve learned to expect pouts if she can’t go to the pool at her specified time or if she’s not ready for bed when it’s bedtime. The other night she kept coming back downstairs after we put them to bed because she didn’t want to go to sleep yet. She’s funny…she’ll always drag Olegs with her and he’s more inclined to follow the rules but follows her just to see what we’ll do. They’re just like most kids their age, they laugh and giggle at bedtime and beg and plead for us to let them stay up. Each time I threaten them with no pool if they don’t follow our rules. So far, using the pool as leverage has seemed to work. I don’t know what we’d do if it was wintertime. LOL!!

Olegs & Kristine pick on each other just like brothers and sisters do. There was the time a few nights ago when Olegs filled up the bathtub for his bath and he left for a second to get his towel. In that split second, Kristine moved in and stole his bath so we had to break up a shoving match. We consoled Olegs and told him he could be first next time. Little things like that we can deal with. Overall, these are two really super kids and we have grown to love them so much. Our bathroom looks like a lake each time they take a shower or bath and we just don’t care. They leave the milk out on the table and the cereal box open after they eat and it’s okay (yes, we go back and ask them to put it away and they do). Having kids in the house is a wonderful thing.

Today was my first day back at work since Olegs & Kristine got here so Grandmother’s caregiver, Cheryl, watched them for us. It was a pretty hectic day and all I could do was think of getting home to see the children. What an awesome feeling to have them run up to me and hug and kiss me when I walked in the door. This is such an incredible experience!

7/4 - Happy 4th of July!

This morning the children and I went with our neighbors and some of their family to our town's 4th of July parade. In my mind it sounded like a fun idea but once we got there and were standing around in the 90+ degree heat waiting and waiting for the parade to start, I began to wonder. Kristine was a little bored but quickly perked up once she realized that people in the parade would be tossing candy her way. Poor Olegs was over it from the moment we got there. It was just too hot for him. I kept telling him that it would be fun once it started but he wasn’t into it at all. Poor guy…I had hyped it up so much and when it actually came to pass it seemed like a parade of mostly garbage trucks, tow trucks and candidates running for elected office. At least some of them were tossing out candy so it wasn’t a total loss. I made it up to them by taking them to the pool afterwards so we could all cool off. We use the pool as leverage when we want them to behave or if we want to reward them..."you no behave, you no go to pool." LOL!

This evening we went to the Braves baseball game with the same neighbors. Olegs and Kristine were bored on the drive there until we reached the city of Atlanta. When they saw the skyscrapers, they couldn’t snap pictures fast enough with their little disposable cameras. It’s just so neat to see things through their eyes. When I look at the city, I see the smog and the trash around, but watching them get so excited reminds me to see the beauty and wonder in things.

We had a really great time up until it started raining. Even once it started to rain we were fine at first. Our seats were just under the covered section which was great until the rain started to blow horizontally from behind our section and the sections above us. We heard a bunch of screaming from the people way up in the rows behind us. The rain and wind was drenching everyone. That sent our entire crew running for cover along with the rest of the thousands of people. It’s enough to make you panic even without having two Latvian children in tow!! Rob led the way with the kids behind him and I picked up the rear. There was no way we were letting those kids out of our sight for a second. We made our way to a covered area with the masses of other people and wound up crammed together like sardines as we waited to see if the storm would subside. Even though Rob and I were miserable, Kristine and Olegs were having a blast. They kept inching their way back out into the rain and we had to keep pulling them back. Every time there was thunder or lightning, they’d just yell WHHOOOAAA!!! Seeing those smiles on their faces made it all worth it even though we weren't able to see the rest of the game or the fireworks. The rain just kept falling in buckets so we knew there was no way the game would continue. We were all drenched from head to toe and laughing hysterically as we carefully made our way through the maze of people to get to our car.

We were very thankful to get back to our nice cozy home. It was actually nice leaving the game early because we were able to get to bed at a decent hour!!

7/3 - Fun Hike at Amicalola Falls

Today was our first visit with the children's chaperone, Ilga, and her husband, Janis (pronounced Ya-nis). We picked them up at about 10:30 a.m. this morning and took them to Amicalola Falls for lunch at the lodge and a hike down the trail next to the falls. They are such nice people and we were excited to share a place that we love to go since this was their first visit to the United States. We took two cars to the falls since there were six of us. The guys were in one car and the girls in the other. It was neat listening to Kristine and Ilga talk in Latvian. Their language is so beautiful. I only wish I could understand more. In time, I hope to.

On the way to the falls, we stopped at one of Rob's fishing holes on the Amicalola River. It was fun to hop along the rocks on the river and put our hands in the rushing cool water. It was just one of those perfect days.

We got back to the house around 5:30 and once again, the kids begged to go to the pool. It's funny, Rob and I had never even been to our neighborhood pool before the kids got here. Now we're there almost every day. This evening, our neighbors were shooting off some fireworks so we went over to watch. It was a long day and we're all tired so we didn't stay there long. We've got another big day planned for the July 4th holiday tomorrow. Ilga was able to explain to the children about July 4th being our Independence Day in America. They seemed so interested and eager to learn.

Now it's an early to bed night for us. This business of staying up until 1:00 or 2:00 in the morning is for the birds. We're just having so much fun we don't want to miss anything by sleeping. It's finally caught up to us though.

7/2 - Feeling Like Kids Again!

Rob and I have been having so much fun that we've almost forgotten that we're adults. It's like having the kids around brings out the kids in us. We absolutely LOVE it!! We're barely getting any sleep and it's like our brains are so tired they barely function and can't compute the simplest of tasks. We wouldn't have it any other way!! This morning on our way to church we were joking around with the kids in the car, singing to the radio, etc. and ended up driving right past our exit. Then when we had to take a different exit we almost got lost!! We got to church just in the nick of time and got the kids signed up for Sunday school. WHEW!!

After church, I took the kids shopping again. We are going hiking tomorrow at Amicalola Falls with the children's chaperone and her husband so we had to find Kristine some decent shoes. If she had her way, she'd wear her little sandals. We found a cute pair of white and pink tennis shoes that will do just fine. Thankfully, I was able to get the point across that we're going hiking tomorrow.

Our communication with the kids is pretty funny. It actually reminds me of the days when I watched Tarzan or The Lone Ranger on TV as a kid (remember "me Tarzan, you Jane" and Tonto "no speak'em English"...LOL!). We talk to the kids in broken sentences..."you like chicken?"..."you have fun?"..."you want to go to pool?"..."me go upstairs, you stay here for minute"..."you no do that". HA!! We have to watch ourselves because we've started talking that way in public. I actually told the clerk at Eckerd's today..."we be back" (we've been there a few times already picking up and dropping off film to be developed) and asked the guy at the shoe store..."you no have kid's socks?" Come to think of it, maybe it's more like caveman babble we're doing. Whatever!! We get our points across and it works for us.

While we were out looking for shoes, we picked up some more food items. These kids can put away some cereal!! Once again, we hit the cereal aisle and they picked out some new Kellogg's (remember, all cereal is Kellogg's). Then we went through the fruit section and I gave them each a plastic bag so they could pick out the fruit they liked. Olegs picked some peaches and Kristine's choice was plums. This was in the Super Target so we also let them each pick one toy. Kristine found a cute Barbie doll after trying to convince me to let her get a scantily clad Bratz doll (that doll had two of the tiniest strips of strategically placed fabric that it might as well have been naked!!). Anyway, I sent her back to look again and she came back with a pretty Barbie in a full length evening gown so we got that one (much better!). Olegs found a semi truck that he liked.

Tonight, Kristine and I baked cookies so we can give some to her chaperone tomorrow as a gift. We're looking forward to another fun filled day tomorrow.